It’s New Year - Time for Goal Setting & Resolutions?
So, it’s New Year’s Eve which is a time of year when many of us look back over the past year and look forwards into the New Year and spend time setting goals and resolutions.
For me, this year is no exception. In fact, this is probably the most significant year ever as my life has completely and utterly changed within the space of 4 months and for the first time I am looking forward into a future that is likely to be vastly different from my past and so, I want to think very carefully about how I am going to progress from now on.
Goal Setting v Resolutions
Traditionally at New Year, we set resolutions, but I think that in practise, the word resolution has been mis-used somewhat, and it has bcome more of a goal-setting practise. Same thing isn’t it? Not exactly…
A goal is some end result that are after, something to be achieved that hasn’t been achieved yet. A good goal is one that can be measured. One that allows us to ask the question “have we reached the goal yet?”.
A resolution is a commitment to do something – it’s focused on some kind of action, or perhaps an inaction such as a resolution to quit smoking.
The Problem With Goals
I used to be a huge goal setter. I’m one of those rare people who has pages of goals written down and regularly reviews them. According to modern self-help gurus such as Tony Robbins, this fact alone should make me successful, whatever that means.
The idea behind a goal is that it helps you focus on the end result that you want and that is supposed to be a good thing isn’t it? For business goals I might set things like wanting to reach a certain subscriber number on this blog, or wanting to earn some specific income level. Perhaps I might have a goal to write a book or launch a course and so on.
However what I have noticed recently is that having a goal that allows you to constantly ask the question “have I achieved it yet?” prompts the inevitable answer of “No” which means that your focus is actually directed towards the FAILURE to have reached the goal. This does not illicit good feelings.
There’s another problem with goals too – all they do is give you a target, something to aim for. While that’s great, it does nothing to help you actually achieve the goal! Most goals cannot be achieved without taking some kind of action, but the process of goal-setting just focuses on the result and not the action required to achieve it.
Resolutions Are Better Than Goals
So lets pick a business goal such as increasing my RSS subscriber numbers to some figure X. In traditional goal setting form, I’d write it out, perhaps on some kind of card and I’d read it to myself every day – maybe even twice a day! I’d keep the goal in front of me all day long where I can see it.
Ok that’s very nice and inspiring but how exactly is that going to help me get more subscribers to my blog? It’s not is it! What if instead I resolved to write at least one pillar article for the blog every week. What if I resolved to comment on at least 10 other blogs every day. What if I resolved to try guest-posting once a month?
These resolutions keep me focused on the actions that I need to take in order to actually achieve the goal. If I were to do those things (and do them properly) then I should expect to see subscribers increase.
Using Goals and Resolutions Together
Of course, what can also happen is that people set resolutions without having any real reason behind them which often results in waning enthusiasm for the resolution and it gets broken very quickly.
Going back to my RSS example, if I resolved to comment on 10 blogs every day without really thinking about why I was doing that, I may get easily disillusioned by the process and start asking myself “what on earth am I spending time on this for?” That’s where the goal comes in because you have your answer – “to get the attention of other blog readers who may end up subscribing”.
There’s no point setting arbitrary goals and then doing nothing about them but it is equally futile to set grand resolutions without any reasoning behind them.
A side effect of thinking in terms of resolutions more than goals is that goals themselves often become somewhat arbitrary. I mean, I’d like to have 1000 subscribers on this blog and once I have that I’d like 2000 and then 3000 and so on. But does the number really matter? No, its just a number. This is where I try to examine what I really want.
I want more RSS subscribers? Why? Because it feeds my ego! Seriously, that is why! Your reasons may be different. I suppose the goal of many bloggers will be to increase RSS subscribers in order to make more money but for me I just love the idea that hundreds of people tune into my blog every day to read what I have to say.
So what I tend to do now is pick some goal (X number of RSS Subscribers) and examine the reasons why I want it (ego) in order to get to the essence of what I want (more subscribers) rather than focusing on the arbitrary number X. Then I think about what I would have to do in order to achieve that and try to think of it in terms of things I can resolve to do to keep me focused on the actions.
What this allows me to do is let go of the attachment to the goal and just enjoy the process. It doesn’t matter if I have 1000 subscribers, or 2000 or whatever. If it’s going up in general then all is good. This means that I don’t have to constantly ask myself if I’ve reached it and consequently remind myself of my failure. Instead I can be happy knowing that I am taking positive actions which will move me in the direction of what I really want.
My Resolutions for 2008?
Here is where I am having a bit of a dilemma. I’ve read quite a few posts of this nature on other blogs over the last couple of days and everybody seems to finish up these posts with a list of goals or resolutions for the coming year, but I find myself unable to do that.
As far as this blog goes, I know I want more subscribers but I’m starting to feel a little torn. Over the last week or so I’ve been thinking long and hard about what I want to do work wise. I even went as far as asking for inspiration on this blog and then publishing all of the ideas that you gave me. Many of you said that I needed to find my passion and follow it and I said that I would do that by developing software.
But the problem is that although I do enjoy developing software I have found something else - something that I have slowly been developing a massive passion for over the last few months that recently has virtually taken over my life. It’s called The Law of Attraction and the more I understand it, the more I want to share it with everybody I know and everybody I don’t know! The trouble is that is has nothing to do with making money online and there are already many blogs that cover it and similar topics.
I love to write, I could write about The Law of Attraction every day, but I feel like I would be betraying my blog audience if I did it here. So you see the dilemma? I know I want readers, but what it is that I want to say? And of course I want to make an income too, I have to… I’m thinking that I need to start another blog, ugh!
Anyway it’s getting into the evening, a night of serious partying beckons so it’s time to put my brain to bed and just enjoy the celebrations.
Happy New Year everyone!
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Tommy
December 31, 2007
Happy New Year Caroline. There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting another blog specific to what you want to do. You will find that in time your own desires/passion will kind of dictate how a multiple blog approach goes…ie what you really love to do, you will undoubtedly spend a bit more time and energy on it…nothing wrong with that. You may also be surprised. One of my longest running blogs I tended to always deal with last…always pushing it to the background, but it’s still around and viable today even though I ignored it for the longest time. You actually give your readers more options by starting another blog. Maybe you’ll attract others that would necessarily read here, but would kill to see this law of attraction stuff! Ya never know. Lastly (the crowd says it’s about time), I’m not a terrible supporter of free blogs and the like (I think ya get what ya pay for), but the blog I referred to earlier is just that…a blogger blog…so….it could always start as an option and get the domain stuff later if it looks worthwhile…sorry for rambling…
T